College life is the exact opposite of one’s school life. There’s newly found freedom, independence and of course an urge to splurge. One of the most important of the newly discovered privileges is the freedom to make choices, from choosing societies to choosing cuisines to experiment every novice has a boost of adrenaline within them. The utopia having a big group of friends, participating in various societies, having good academic leads to students neglecting themselves. A college is a place where one needs to find herself through all the above things rather than being lost in them.
Similarly, it may seem fascinating to be environed by lots of friends, it is necessary to find the right ones amongst them, Friends who help you grow, appreciate you, motivate you and most importantly respect you. People who respect your choices and space are the ones you need. Delhi University’s fundamental quality being diversity is why one needs to learn to respect other people’s choices, opinions and space. As well as further help you in future. Nevertheless respecting others must not be taken as pleasing others. Learning to acknowledge one’s own emotions and priorities are what one needs to focus on. The biggest enemy to which is the bewildering world of FOMO (Fear of missing out). While it’s ok to bunk a few classes to go out with friends, it must not turn into a regular thing.
It is true the thought of going out to new places seems delicious as ever but it is should not be on the cost of your future as famously said: “life mein jitna bhi try Karo, Kuch Na Kuch to chhootega hi isiliye Jahan hain,wahan ka hi mazaa lete hain na “. For that one needs to sometime clearly say NO not to others but one’s own self too. That’s the difficult battle one needs to fight. If you are dealing with Sophie’s choice like situation, apply the 5-year rule that is, will this help you in the next 5years, if yes then go for it if not then you know what to do! It begins when you accept yourself.
While you may encounter numerous people and some of them better than you one way or the other it is important to not sulk in complex rather grow with the competition. You may have gloomy, disappointing days and blaming your past, beating up yourself won’t get you out of it too. There would always be someone better than you out there but they won’t be you. At this moment having a perfect body, clothes, boyfriend/girlfriend might seem most important to achieve but trust me all you need is yourself.
Only when you accept yourself and love yourself only then someone can love you. One who accepts her flaw is the who grows. The first year of college may seem all happening and shiny but uncover it and its all the more challenging as well. All this might seem overwhelming to read and execute but the crux is YOUR PRIORITY IS YOU.